Conversations
to Have with Your Attorney-In-Fact and Personal Representative
Estate planning involves more than just getting your
legal documents completed. It is also a
good idea to talk to the people you choose to name as your attorney-in-fact
(via your power of attorney) and personal representative (via your will).
First, explain to each person what responsibilities
are entailed and ask them for permission to name them to that role. Next,
discuss your wishes concerning medical treatment and end of life care with your
attorney-in-fact. With your personal representative, consider discussing your
preferences on these issues:
·
whether you prefer burial or cremation,
·
whether you would like a funeral,
obituary, memorial service, etc.,
·
whether you have already picked out and
paid for a place to be buried or a cremation facility,
·
how to access all of your accounts,
online or otherwise,
·
what assets and liabilities you have,
·
any memberships you hold that need to be
ended, and
·
how to access your house and safety
deposit box.
You may also wish to discuss some of these issues
with family members, clergy, your doctor, and friends, particularly if you are
in poor health, older, or terminally ill.
Conversations
to Have with the Person Who Named You as Attorney-In-Fact or Personal
Representative
If someone has named you as their attorney-in-fact
or personal representative, it is incredibly important to discuss your role,
their situation, and their beliefs about end of life care and medical
treatment.
Sometimes these discussions can be straightforward
and relatively easy. Other times, they
can be emotional or difficult to start. It can be especially difficult for an adult
child to bring up these issues with an elderly parent or family member.
Here are some online resources to begin these
conversations and to keep the conversations from becoming too emotional or
stressful:
1. If
applicable, read the article, How to Talk to Parents About Aging, about
techniques to initiate this conversation with your parents: http://www.realsimple.com/health/preventative-health/aging-caregiving/talk-parents-aging-00000000010442/index.html
2. Print
out and use the Value Worksheet on pages 8 and 9 of the referenced
document, available at http://www.compassionwa.org/docs/CandC_Advance_Directive.pdf
to guide your conversation.
3. Consider
using the article, Case Stories for Conversation Starters about Advance Care
Planning, http://www.chippewavalleycarecoalition.org/documents/case_studies.pdf
for a less structured discussion.
4. Look
through 35 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents to see if there are any
other questions you should be asking, http://www.aarp.org/relationships/caregiving-resource-center/info-08-2010/gs_talking_points.html.
Additional
Resources
Still have questions? Here are more online
resources:
·
Articles by a Doctor regarding End of Life
Care and decisions: http://www.dyingwell.org/writings.htm
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